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Mar 1, 2022Liked by Sarah Wheeler

You've done it again, Sarah Wheeler. (i've read Ross Greene and I really like the way you boiled it down). I basically need the reminder (maybe everyday) that kids (and adults, really) often do the best they can most of the time. In major gratitude! MERCI!

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Thanks Jessica!

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Mar 11Liked by Sarah Wheeler

This is a masterpiece. Somehow you put a cherry on top, without pretending that the sundae itself is perfect or neat.

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Bahahahahaha. The subtitle.

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I commented before I read the post. It is so hilarious and spot on. So much resonance in the daily lived experiences.

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Sarah, you and Courtney make such a terrific team! As two inspiring minds engaged in incisive

dialogue, both of your columns are consistently uplifting. Thanks 🙏! Including the wonderful humor. We need it.

My question to you is why adults can’t act more like kids? For instance, not organize widespread war among themselves, armed with high tech military killing machines! DD

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You bring up a very very good point Dennis. Despite their many flaws, kids are definitely better than us :)

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This is extremely helpful! It makes me feel like I can be a respectful parent and that it doesn't involve abandoning myself. Thank you thank you.

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As a mom to boys, one with dyslexia and the other with ADD - I have learned one thing: Parenting them constantly changes and morphs and adapts. The more I can bend and adapt with it - the more confidence I have. And this - "But the annoying thing about kids, other than how bad they are at cleaning up after themselves and putting their shoes on, is that they aren’t adults". When I remember that they are not adults (at 12 and 10 they are for SURE not adults) then holy moly life rolls better. For all of us. Wonderful post, as usual.

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Preach Alex!

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Feb 25, 2022Liked by Sarah Wheeler

Not that I can't still use this now with teenagers, but where were you 12 years ago when I really needed this?! Thanks for your gentle, vulnerable, humorous and thoughtful way of sharing advice. Usually parenting advice makes me feel shitty, but this was helpful. Thank God my teenagers still love some hot chocolate with whipped cream and sprinkles!

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Who doesn't??????!! The literature tells us that this is especially helpful with teenagers, but I have zero experience with that. Can't wait to ask you about it when the time comes!

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