Sarah, your wisdom about parents getting a divorce comes as still another wonderful gift from Courtney because she connected us. Now I’m immensely grateful to you both!
Anyone reading this might infer that I’m totally fixed on the perspectives of grandparents so please forgive this preoccupation and understand that I do have other ideas to share. This topic touches a nerve so I’ll write with more intimacy than would normally be expected.
From my perspective I must confess that the divorce of one of my sons unfortunately ranks as among the most painful experiences of my life. If there hadn’t been very young children involved then it may have been easier. But then my brother’s divorce was very rough as well, especially for my mother who in turn had divorced parents when she was, oddly enough, at the same age of the other parents I’ve mentioned . Now I can identify better with her distress; it just didn’t stop for her .
I’m well aware that my case may not be representative or in accord with opinions from your other readers. I must conclude that based on this variety of experiences with divorce in my family that my conviction is that there’s a huge problem with parents of small children getting divorces because the distress reverberated throughout our family.
We should be aware when this matter is discussed and talk about the parents seeking out every possible kind of counseling.
I failed to help my brother and son in this respect by urging them to consult with competent
therapists at every level before resorting to divorce.
I do hear the voices of those who make a positive case for divorce. Obviously, if there is physical abuse or violence of any type involved, then immediate action should be taken to stop it. In my case, there was fortunately none of this present.
Congratulations, Sarah, on your first reader-inspired effort. This is terrific and I sincerely appreciate this opportunity for expressing intimate thoughts. Peace, DD
"It's not divorce that harms kids, it's tension. They're feeling it in their bodies." Apologizing for tension, addressing it and asking what kids' experience was of it etc. The 5:1 ratio! So much wisdom in this! Thank you.
I love audio and your piece was very inspiring. Keep it going.
This was absolutely wonderful and timely for me. Thank you so much for it!
Sarah, your wisdom about parents getting a divorce comes as still another wonderful gift from Courtney because she connected us. Now I’m immensely grateful to you both!
Anyone reading this might infer that I’m totally fixed on the perspectives of grandparents so please forgive this preoccupation and understand that I do have other ideas to share. This topic touches a nerve so I’ll write with more intimacy than would normally be expected.
From my perspective I must confess that the divorce of one of my sons unfortunately ranks as among the most painful experiences of my life. If there hadn’t been very young children involved then it may have been easier. But then my brother’s divorce was very rough as well, especially for my mother who in turn had divorced parents when she was, oddly enough, at the same age of the other parents I’ve mentioned . Now I can identify better with her distress; it just didn’t stop for her .
I’m well aware that my case may not be representative or in accord with opinions from your other readers. I must conclude that based on this variety of experiences with divorce in my family that my conviction is that there’s a huge problem with parents of small children getting divorces because the distress reverberated throughout our family.
We should be aware when this matter is discussed and talk about the parents seeking out every possible kind of counseling.
I failed to help my brother and son in this respect by urging them to consult with competent
therapists at every level before resorting to divorce.
I do hear the voices of those who make a positive case for divorce. Obviously, if there is physical abuse or violence of any type involved, then immediate action should be taken to stop it. In my case, there was fortunately none of this present.
Congratulations, Sarah, on your first reader-inspired effort. This is terrific and I sincerely appreciate this opportunity for expressing intimate thoughts. Peace, DD
"It's not divorce that harms kids, it's tension. They're feeling it in their bodies." Apologizing for tension, addressing it and asking what kids' experience was of it etc. The 5:1 ratio! So much wisdom in this! Thank you.